When A Family Member Has A Disability And More

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For many, families are whom we can depend on in times of trials and challenges. There are those who are related by blood and can count on one another but there are also those who have close ties but aren’t really related by blood. Whatever the circumstances may be and the struggle of the mental health of those with physical disabilities, the family is considered to be there for you when no one else will.

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Reclaiming Your Life Post-Accident With A Black Outfit

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Retaking control of your life after surviving an accident and sustaining the injuries that have resulted from it may not be the most straightforward task. When my best friend’s legs became paralyzed temporarily after a car crash, she had to depend on everyone around her. Her savings ran out, so her parents had to take care of her financially. She could not drive, so we took turns driving her wherever she needed to be. Those were the darkest days in my best friend’s life.

As soon as the physical therapist said that she could walk and work again, though, it was as if my best friend’s face lit up literally. After all the hugging and crying and thanking, she said, “Let me put on a black outfit now.”

Such a statement was entirely unexpected, but it did not surprise me. There is no better way of regaining your power than wearing black clothes. This color symbolizes independence and strength, you see. You won’t find weaklings putting on black garments.

If you can relate to my best friend, here’s how you can make your black outfit look better.


It’s a known fact that red and gold match black the best. Red lipstick is all you’ll need when you’re wearing black attire because it exudes sensuality and strong character to anyone who wears it. A gold necklace or watch or bracelet can add a big difference to your clothes, too. 

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Think Out Of The Box

It does not mean that you can’t add more black to your outfit because you’re already wearing a black dress or shirt. You can layer your clothes, of course, as long as you know what kinds of fabric textures can make you look fantastic.

Be Unique

Don’t be afraid to wear black clothes that have spikes or cuts at unlikely places even if you like it so much and it fits you well just because some people may think wrongly of you. It’s not a bad thing to experiment with your outfit and be adventurous.

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Choose The Right Shoes

People say that shoes always make clothes look better. Apart from the fact that they can protect your feet, they can also bring you to places you want to go to the most. However, you still won’t be able to go anywhere if you’re not wearing the right shoes. No matter how expensive or beautiful the pair is, it can only be right if it complements your black clothing and makes you feel comfortable.

Be Simple

Technically, wearing a black outfit is a statement already. For that reason, you should not have to wear too many accessories to attract more attention. If you’re wearing an evening gown or a semi-formal dress, for instance, simple matching pearl earrings and necklace can be the most suitable adornment for you. If you’re wearing more laidback clothes like a shirt or cottony dress, a long chain can give you that easy-going aura while still looking fresh.

Generally, black is the absence of color, so it doesn’t reflect any color. This little truth makes it a great canvas for your mix-and-match experiment while regaining control over your life. Good luck!

A Therapist Talks About Disability Of The Mind

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The disability of the mind is the most challenging disorder to cure or treat. I would rather that I have a massive gash, a broken arm, or even a benign cyst in one of my internal organs which would require general anesthesia surgery. In any given day, I would rather that I have those physical ailments. You know why? As I have told my therapist (and I am a therapist), physical illnesses, if not grave or deadly, can be treated since it is easily seen. You will see it healing and recovering, and the person can feel its physical improvement since the body is helping it repair.

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How To Keep Going Despite Your Disability

There seems to be little rhyme nor reason to when a mental disorder strikes, who it will strike (outside of genetic predispositions for some of them), and how deep or long the episode will last. — 

Are you experiencing stress and anxiety because of your disability? Is your situation too confusing to the point that you would rather stay at home than work in an office or interact with others? Do you consider your disabled status as a hindrance to continue your life? According to a psychologist, everything that you are feeling right now is valid. No one can tell you exactly how to feel or react in a given scenario. You have every right to respond to several circumstances that you encounter in your day-to-day life.


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In this article, we are going to discuss the different tips that you can follow so that you can start enjoying and living your life to the fullest despite your disability. You need to understand the reality that what is happening right now is only temporary. You have the chance or power to change your future or the course of your life. Do not just sit in the corner and blame yourself or others for your problems or issues. Instead, gather all the strength left in you and promise yourself that things are going to improve for the better soon.


Below are some of the smart techniques to always remind yourself:


Accept Your Situation

…disclosure relieves the strain of hiding the condition and increases the likelihood that the person will find and develop a social support network with others who might have similar conditions or experiences. — Alecia M. Santuzzi, Ph.D.

You have probably heard this advice from many people already. The reason why we want to emphasize this again is that only a few individuals understand how acceptance can contribute to one’s mental wellness. Keep in mind that the more you question your current situation, the harder it would be on your part to enjoy your life. Stop concerning yourself about the what-ifs. The right thing that you must do right now is to learn to accept your situation. In so doing, you can give yourself another opportunity to move forward instead of getting stuck. Just because you are disabled does not mean that it is the end of your life. Start with acceptance, and the rest will follow.


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Find Inspiration From Others


Try to check the news and learn about the stories of other disabled individuals who made a difference in other people’s lives. Use their experiences and words to inspire you to keep moving forward to brighter tomorrow. Promise to yourself that you will continuously look for positive news that highlights the big and little success of persons with a disability, just like you. You will be surprised how many men and women continue to do what they usually enjoy even after their disability. They did not allow their current circumstances prevent them from having a good life. They believe that their disability may be a setback, but it does not necessarily equate to a lifetime suffering. Make sure that you read this kind of stories so that you will get the motivation that you need at the moment. Take advantage of free resources that you can get online. Read blogs and articles or watch documentaries that feature inspiring individuals with a disability.


Find A New Passion


As already mentioned above, life does not end after you acquired your disability. What is essential is that you have the right mindset, which is to fight the battles and challenges that will come your way. We understand that it can be a complete struggle to keep going, especially if you feel that there are now physical limitations in your life. Do not fret because you can always start with finding a new passion. All you have to do is to start searching for the top hobbies or interests that are perfect for disabled persons like you. Dedicate your time and efforts into loving the new passion until you get back on track.

For those with invisible disabilities who typically keep things close to the vest and have been anxious, depressed, or grief stricken, this can feel like a very lonely place. In addition, it puts the onus of deliberately sharing your situation and asking for help on you. — Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM

Talk About Your Feelings


Stop suppressing all the negativity and sadness within yourself. Take note that you can always talk to the people who love and admire you. Allow these individuals to offer their help and assistance. Instead of shutting them away, the ideal thing to do is to welcome them in your open arms. Talk about the issues or things that bother you and do not hesitate to ask for their advice. You need to believe that these people are out there to make you feel more loved than ever. Never think that their act of love is a sign of pitying you. Instead, consider it as an expression of how you mean to them.


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Having a disability must never an excuse for a sad life. You need to get back up and start a new life. You deserve to be happy for the rest of your life. Do not let disability prevent you from having all the best things.