There was a time in my life when the only song I would listen to all day every day was Kelly Clarkson’s Sober. No, I was not an alcoholic or drug addict or abuser of any substance – and I still not am. The song is not like Demi Lovato’s single of the same title either. Instead, it is more about picking all the weeds and keeping the flowers.
From what I understood and heard from KC’s interviews, you can interpret it as plucking every ill-meaning person out of your life and sticking with the people who genuinely care for you. Doing the opposite of that will bring you nothing but harm, after all. The more you stay with the “weeds,” the more you may lose yourself and not see the real you for a long time.
It has taken a little while for me to take that first step, frankly speaking. But when I did, I could not be happier.
Here’s why you should weed out the ill-meaning people in your life, too.
You Don’t Need To Be Someone’s Comic Relief
The primary reason is that you cannot be a laughingstock in front of everyone forever. Let me rephrase that – you don’t need to anyone’s comic relief. Not doing anything when someone makes fun of you makes them think that it is okay with you. It is vital to cut them off your life as soon as possible.
People see you one way, while your internal life feels diametrically opposite. That dissonance can create a boatload of stress. — Nicole S. Urdang, MS, NCC, DHM
Letting Others Treat You Unkindly Can Chip Away At Your Soul
That’s right – allowing others to treat you however they want without thinking of your feelings can chip away at your soul. You may not notice it now and still choose to believe that you can take all the lemons that they throw at you. Despite that, you will later realize that you are not okay and that you will never be as long as you those people are around you.
It Is Almost Impossible To Succeed At Anything If Someone Keeps On Pulling You Down
Negative folks attract negativity more than you can ever imagine. There is nothing to worry about if they keep it to themselves, but they tend to affect unassuming people like you. Not to mention, their jealousy and envy towards the things you have may push them to do anything to pull you down. The result is that you may not be able to succeed at anything.
If the person with the disability is willing to approach these scary issues, the process will be easier for all involved. — LuAnn Pierce, LCSW
I know how challenging it can be to weed out ill-meaning individuals in your life. That is especially true if they happen to be your best friends, parents, siblings, and other relatives. You may not want to admit their wrongdoings towards you, or you are afraid of being left on your own.
However, sometimes it is better to be alone for a while than stay with people who don’t love you. With how kind you appear to be for putting up with others’ meanness, you will undoubtedly find individuals who will care for you. Only, this time, try to be wiser than ever.